Since Tony and I got out of work early today because we worked extra earlier this week, we thought it was about time to bring DiDi to see Tony’s parents. The last time we went was just over a week ago, before we left for Vegas, and that was while Amiee, Tony’s sister was in town. After them not having seen the baby for 9 months, I didn’t want to lose communication with them again. (That story’s a whole ‘nother blog in itself.)
I was tired because the baby woke up crying many many times last night, and each time he did I had to actually at least sit up in bed and held him before he would calm down. Not sure what’s wrong. Anywho, when 3:00, 4:00, 5:00 rolled around and my mom still wasn’t home yet, I was debating whether or not we should go. I was thinking to myself, “… we get there at 6:00, then we have to leave by 8ish before the baby starts to get too tired… that’s only about 2 hours… and what if [tony’s mom] insists on feeding him stuff again… i’m tired and therefore have little patience and won’t want to be polite when telling her NO…” yeah, the stream of thought didn’t last much longer because 1) I was tired and didn’t want to waste what little mental energy I still had, and 2) my mom came home soon afterwards. So we packed up and took off. (Since essentially all outings with the baby - even to the grocery store - involves “packing up”.)
By the way, it may not seem like it, but I do have a point I’m getting to. What was it again? Oh yeah. The trip went GREAT.
When we got there, they came out to greet us. Both grandparents! I can’t remember the last time that happened. And the whole rest of the evening was smooth sailing from that point on. Didi was wonderful, as usual when we’re out with other people. Everything he did delighted Tony’s parents. It was so heartwarming to see. The only thing that started to get on my nerves was when Tony’s mom kept offering to watch him while we “go to a movie” or “go out to eat”. She mentioned leaving the baby with her again when we discussed our daycare/nanny situation and again even when we mentioned possibly visiting Bill in Japan! I love the offers and I’m 99.99% sure I’ll take them up on it someday, but right now, I’m just not quite ready to leave him alone with other people. But other than that, the evening went great. We even made tentative plans to do other stuff this weekend - either visiting or going shopping or something… all with the baby, of course. But it’s a start! We all talked about their trip to Taiwan and I found out they went to DC last Christmas to be with Amiee so I was just glad they were willing to chat about other things besides the baby. We’re definitely nowhere near being able to discuss the underlying problem - the reason they haven’t seen the baby up til now - but as long as things are good now, I could care less. I know I have a personal mantra of “never go to bed angry” and I’ve always felt that open and honest communication is the most important thing in a relationship, but I’m willing to forego that in this relationship between us and Tony’s parents, if it means having peace in the family.